Monday 24 August 2015

signing a contract?

Funny you wrote in your story today about  a get out of jail free card,  Sunny.  We drove interstate to do some shopping today, which was a three hour return journey on a very uncomfortable derriere from yesterdays spanking.  Think I have more bruises from yesterday than I have had my whole life. LOL!

Anyway along the way I was wondering do you all have written agreements to cover  your HOH if you get taken to hospital or something similar after a session which causes bruising? When I first started reading blogs I came across Learning Domestic Discipline by Clint and Chelsea where they said you should sign a contract.

When I brought this up with Bear at the time he said no way, he didn't think it was necessary.  Yet he does worry about our neighbours hearing us and dobbing us in. Should we have something in writing to cover times like now where I am covered in bruises to stop Bear being accused of assault?

What do you all think and do?

17 comments:

  1. Hi Lindy,
    I have often thought the same thing. Hope you have lots of comments on this, because it's a very good question.
    You will find that after your bottom gets used to a spanking fairly regularly, that you will not bruise nearly as easily. I do remember the first time, and the bruises scared the hell out of Sam. It just doesn't happen anymore or at least very rarely.

    Ella Ever After

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    1. Hello Ella, Bear is quite delighted in the bruises. Think I have woken a monster in my sweet Bear.
      Lindy x

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  2. Can't answer that question, Lindy. As you know, it's not our dynamic, but it will be interesting to see the comments. It could really be a problem if things go awry.In this day and age a hangnail can cause a problem, so I can imagine bruises.

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    1. Thanks Leigh. will be interesting to see what others think.
      Lindy x

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  3. Hi Lindy, I think after you have been spanked a bit more you won't bruise so easily. I love it when I have marks. I just told hubby about this post and he said it was all about the level of trust between us. He said I trust him not to go too far and he knows he would never damage me!. Then he whispered "mind you I did enjoy yesterday" ( He was larking about with his slipper and I turned over, the damn thing caught my thigh and I had a bloody great mark for hours!!) Cheeky devil, lol
    No contracts here, we live in a semi detached and also worry about the neighbours hearing us, goodness knows what we would say to them but I won't stop for all the tea in China!!
    love Jan,xx

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    1. Hello Jan, Yes it is a matter of trust and I certainly have loads of trust in Bear. Think he just got over enthusiastic on the weekend particularly with my attitude. Never mind it has made my mood 100% better.
      Ouch not good getting slippered on your thigh. Your hubby is very cheeky.
      Lindy x

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  4. We don't have anything like that, I rarely bruise and if I did I think my blog writings could get Nick off the hook if I couldn't do it personally. But I do have a letter among our spanking toys in case we should go at the same time - it would tell the kids that it was all in fun and that no one was ever abused in any way and that it had brought us much closer.

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    1. The letter is a great idea, thanks PK. Might just write one and put it amongst our toys also. Guess writing about my spankings on here would get Bear an out of jail free card.
      Lindy x

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    2. Oh That's a good idea PK, I have hinted to my youngest son's girlfriend that she is to be the one to get rid of the toy box and I have made sure she knows it is "toys" but I might just do that
      love Jan,xx

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  5. We don't have a contract and won't ever have one. For us it's always been a waxing and waning event in our marriage.
    I like PKs letter to her kids... That's a great way to say it isn't abuse.
    I say whatever makes you comfortable....

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    1. It is an awesome idea to write the letter. Thanks for your opinion Minelle, don't think we would have a contract but interesting to find out other ideas.
      Lindy x

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  6. That's a great question Lindy. We don't have any contract and I too do love it whenever I do have marks. As the others said, I think the bruising should lessen as your bottom gets more practice lol. PK's idea is a great one.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Guess Bear hasn't used that heavy belt before that is why I bruised. Yes think I will definitely follow PK's idea and write a letter.
      Lindy x

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  7. Hubby likes to bite my boobs. The bruises are a regular thing. I have often thought about what would happen if... i have a marriage contact. That is all the paperwork i want. I really don't have a backup plan... food for thought!

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    1. Thanks Linda. Ouch to the bites on your boobs. It is food for thought.
      Lindy x

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  8. I bruise easily just from every day life and my doctor, who is female, asks me about how I got them and they are just on my arms or legs! My husband got scared the few times he left bruises and usually stops before it would happen. Sometimes I'd like more, but since we don't have rules per se, I can't push it.
    Why do you think many women like having the bruises? Or men, for leaving them? I would think the men should question if they were too close to being abusive? Any thoughts?

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  9. I have loved having my bruises this week once I could sit comfortably. bear was frightened of leaving bruises but think he is over it now. He usually doesn't spank very hard. Thanks Kate.
    Lindy x

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