I couldn't believe it when I read PKs latest post about her spanking. We seem to be living a very similar life miles apart, ssometimes. Both of our husbands are sweet and obviously don't enjoy spanking us except for fun. It's been so long since we've had any sort of kink in our lives and I find myself really craving it. It was Bears birthday last weekend so along with a few vouchers which I think Ella had in her post.
NO......... ZILCH!........ NADA!....... NOTHING!
I feel like I'm slipping down the rabbit hole with no way out. I've tried talking to him about the situation. His reply is he likes to see me happy and he will spank me later. Well this has been going on for weeks, I'm growing old and getting more grey hairs waiting. I've been putting on a brave face to the public but inside I'm hurting so bad. Yes I know some of you are going to say "This too shall pass." Seems like the longer we aren't practicing TTWD the less likely we are to return to it. It feels like I'm banging my head on a brick wall, its so frustrating.
The only thing keeping me going at the moment is my daily photos for the photo a day challenge on face book. Also of course reading all your posts here, as you all seem like family to me.
What to do?????? How do I encourage my Bear to get back into the swing of things? Any hints will be appreciated, thanks.
A very despondent Lindy
Lindy,
ReplyDeleteYou sound so frustrated. How about some teasing and loving and see what happens. A serious talk never goes wrong. Keep us posted.
Meredith
Thank you Meredith will give it a go. Hopefully it might awaken the sleeping Bear.
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wish I had answers for you. been stuck in this situation for weeks . bad health has knocked us off the rails.
ReplyDeletehugs DF
Oh DF, sorry to hear you are still experiencing bad health in your household. Hope you both recover soon. Sending positive healing vibes your way.
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Awww Lindy...sorry you are having such a rough time. The only answer I can think of is the time Rogue and her guy were going through a dry spell...she walked through the room and told him...once of us is getting a spanking and at this point, I don't care who! Might work. Don't have any other suggestions but am sending lots of prayers and positive energy for you.
ReplyDeleteHugs and blessings...Cat
Cat that is a fabulous idea. I know Bear won't let me spank him so fingers crossed it will work.
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I surely understand. I'm happy they enjoy it for fun, but I wish they really understood the whole lifestyle.
ReplyDeleteYep me too PK wish their was a magic wand to make them understand.
DeleteHugs Lindy
I'm so Lindy, does Bear read here? I wish I had some suggestions. We haven't practiced ttwd for so long here I can't even remember. I hear you.
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Roz
No unfortunately Bear doesn't read here. I've tried to ask him to read before but he's not interested. Sorry you also aren't practicing.
DeleteHugs Lindy
I am so sorry....I feel you frustration. No answers for you, but {{{HUGS}}}.
ReplyDeleteabby
Thank you Abby for your hugs.
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Lindy, I think this is so hard for our men sometimes. I have tried to explain it to Sam by saying that for me a spanking is like saying, "I love you." When you do not spank me, I do not feel loved.
ReplyDeleteThis has helped considerably, but I find I have to remind him from time to time.
Sending a Spanking Wish Downunder,
Ella
Thank you for your spanking wish Ella, very much appreciated. I've tried explaining it to Bear that way also.
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It is hard. How about putting a implement on the bed with a little note about how you feel.
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Ronnie
xx
Thanks for the suggestion Ronnie. I've tried that previously and his response is I'll give you a spanking later. Later never arrives. :(
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He wants u to be happy and will spank u later he says. How about telling him "but not spanking me is not making me happy"? I like the direct approach. Spanking now please is what i say. Its not topping. Its making needs known. (But thats how we operate and our relationship has beeb set up..) Good luck.
ReplyDeleteThank you Fondles for your suggestions. I'll give it a go.
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I wish I had the words of encouragement to share but unfortunately all I can offer you is company in the rabbit hole so you know you are not alone. I could have written this myself. I hope it returns for you soon...and that you feel connected again. Email me if you need to chat... Hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Terps and would have loved your company. Slowly clawing my way back out of that hole.
DeleteI have a new recipe I should share with you. A delicious chocolate cake Bear makes.
Hugs Lindy
so glad you are coming out of the hole...would love the new recipe :-) I have not tried anything new lately baking wise...but if I do I will definitely share. I recently made sweet and sour chicken and vegetable fried rice since we can't go out for Chinese food as a family any more... bye for now :-)
DeleteYou know my friend Lillie once said, 'write on your panties, 'this thing ain't going to spank itself'.
ReplyDeleteBut in all seriousness, I can't imagine what you are going through. Perhaps try playing a kinky board game, or buy some of those dice. Try some light hearted things~ play a tit for tat game, he spanks, you do xyz for him. Place bets, or turn any game even tick tac toe into a kinky game, loser does whatever the winner wants. Those sort of things. AT the very least you may get a few laughs out of the deal.
Once he does decide to spank again, maybe reward him GREATLY for doing so? Perhaps write to him about how wonderful it made you feel when he did.
I often think that people 'forget' how much they enjoy things, even if it is watching the one you love enjoying things, when they haven't experienced it in a while. Hopefully this is the case for your Bear and you get him rolling again.
Best of luck
willie
Thank you so much Willie for all your suggestions. Things are starting to look brighter again, slowly.
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